“Ahhhhhhh…(whimper)….ok, ok, just a little bit more, only a little bit.” “Just fan your head; you got to let that sh** marinate!” The first person talking above: me. The second: my older sister.
This is the conversation we had while I received one of my last relaxers. After that, I decided that I never wanted another relaxer again. I relapsed once, relaxing in October 2008; I haven’t had a chemical on my head since. Now, this is not a condescending, creamy-crack-bashing, relaxer-ranting, tsk-tsking tirade.
Transitioning to natural hair is not a walk in the park, but there’s something to be said about a willingness to embrace your chemically unaltered hair. It’s a struggle, but one that’s well worth it. The friends I have with natural hair have some of the flyest hair I’ve ever seen, straight, kinky or otherwise. For those women who decide that natural hair is for them, this is what I have learned throughout my hair’s “reversion” back to its true state.
(1) Hair wants to be loved. Do NOT treat your hair like a red-headed step-child. Be gentle with it. Combing your hair roughly like you are punishing it is not going to benefit anyone. Not you, and definitely not your strands.
(2) Moisture. Keep your tresses moisturized. More moisture equals softer and healthier hair. It’s all about CONDITIONING. I also read this in a Glamour magazine, and it is very much the truth. Whether it be deep or quickie (get your mind out of the gutter), conditioning is always a treat for your hair.
(3) Protein is important as well. If you can find a protein conditioner or treatment that will keep your hair feeling soft AND strong, bury it immediately because that is treasure! Protein and moisture combined will keep your hair from breaking at the line of demarcation, the point where your natural hair meets the relaxed hair.
(4) Begin to know your hair. When you decide to stick to transitioning, you have to be willing to work with whatever texture you have, whether it is loose curls or tightly-coiled kinks. You don’t have to compare your hair to others’. What is yours is yours, and what is theirs is theirs. Healthy hair is good hair; whatever comes out of your head, WORK IT!!
(5) Rough days. You will have them. Any time you have two DRASTICALLY different types of hair on your head, there are bound to be some styling problems. See that girl right there moving through Towers with the scarf on her head? Yeah, that’s me. There are good days and bad days. Rollersetts, braids, braidouts, twistouts, all of these styles can be god-sends. There are plenty of styling options waiting for you to discover them.
There’s so much more to say…but I think I’ve run out of space. For my transitioning ladies, stay dedicated, be bold, and have fun with it!
Before I even begin this letter let me just say that I have been a fan of yours ever since you were in Destiny's Child. I own each of your albums/DVDs and I think you are one of the greatest performers of all time. I have yet to see anyone who can sing and dance live as well as you can. That said, this is not a diss letter, this is a request: Can you please sit down???
First of all, Did you actually release "Video Phone"? Really? Did you really think you were being creative when you made a music video themed with colored guns, bright backgrounds, & camera-headed people? Did you really THINK that was okay? NO. Sit down.
"I Am...Sasha Fierce?" Are You? I thought this was supposed to be your most "personal" album to date (By the way, um...this album has been out for more than a year now. Stop puttin out singles and videos from it like it came out last month). You went and got married and then on your most "personal" album, you first release "Single Ladies"???? Okay cool...I guess you had to appeal to your fanbase (I loved the song actually), and you had to release "If I were a Boy," and "Halo." I was cool with all of this until I heard you say, "I Am Sasha Fierce is about me. It's about me opening up about things that I've never discussed before. I'm completely open which is different for me." Now, you and me both know that you are one of the most reserved celebrities on the planet, so when I heard you were going to open up I was like, "Finally!" But what did I get when I opened the disc? "Radio". "Video Phone". "Diva". Umm...I guess bragging about yourself or talking about a DJ and a video phone could be considered personable to someone who doesn't know the real definition.
TIMEOUT: While we're on the subject of true definitions and what not, I need you to take out a dictionary and look up the word "writer." Upon reading the definition, you should realize that you are NOT a writer. A writer/songwriter is someone who first off, WRITES their own music, the majority of their own music,or hell, contributes ALOT. You do not do any of these things. On most of the tracks you are listed LAST on the writers' credits, and it's not because everyone else's last name started with A and the writers were listed alphabetically. It's because you were the LAST to contribute and you probably only wrote an ad-lib here or there. Case and point: (Actually, I'll give you two) On your Bday album you say, "I wrote songs saying all of the things I wish Deena would have said in the film" and then you go right into the song "Listen." Okay, question. How come when "Listen" was nominated for an Academy Award for Best Song you weren't listed as a contributor? Oh. I know why. It's because the Academy Awards only recognizes the TOP THREE contributors on a song and you weren't one of them...meaning that...you didn't write shit. (Wait, I didn't mean to curse you out Beyonce, I was just sayin...) Point number two deals with the all too memorable "Irreplaceable." At a number of performances you said, "I wrote this song for all of my ladies!" Come on B. You know Neyo wrote that song. And you know that ONCE AGAIN you were listed LAST because you only wrote the word "baby" in the song a couple of times.
BACK TO "I Am Sasha Fierce": Despite the non-deepness of the tracks, "Ave Maria" (though it sampled) was good, "Satellites" was a modern day lullaby, "Hello" & "Ego" were fire, and "Disappear" & "Halo" (Hey, you were listed first as a writer on these two tracks) were good...but not good enough. For you to say that this album revealed things about you was a lie, Beyonce. All I found out was that you allowed that voice crack at the end of "Ego" to stay on the album because you were letting go of your "perfectionist" ways. Yawn.
Sit down.
Now, I honestly do believe that you are a hardworking woman--You are constantly performing, promoting, modeling, acting, and giving interviews which is another reason you need to take a break. Your performances are always on point but recently I've noticed that they're all very similar...I swear you've performed the Single Ladies routine one hundred too many times and you soon became aware that people were noticing. So what did you do to silence the critics? You decided to embark on a low budget production (in Vegas, ironically) and turn it into an "intimate" (Can you please ask Jay-Z to get you a dictionary this Christmas?) concert DVD called, "I Am...Yours." You rearranged a lot of the songs and--- = TIMEOUT: For the record, if I buy a ticket to your concert, I'm all for you throwing in a diff beat here or there but umm...turning "Sweet Dreams" into a slow lullaby is not something I want to see. And if I'm spending my money to see you perform, I need to see a beautiful stage and a good amount of costume changes. Didn't you make 87 million last year? I know you can afford that.
"I Am...Yours" Continued: you were closer to the audience. For the ABC special you "opened up" by finally saying Jay Z was your husband and...that's about it. Yawn.
Sit down.
These past few years have revealed you as a non human--a calculated celebrity who does no wrong, a "good girl" who can expose her body on stage but won't utter a word about her daily thoughts. (You should just stop doing interviews. Your reserved personality makes it pointless) You've become an unattainable being who oversaturates the market and it's time for you to take a seat. It's time for you to take a break, have fun, learn some life lessons so you can have something real to write about, record a new album and release it awhile from now. How much can you grow if you never have time to live without the spotlight? Like I said earlier, this is not a diss letter, but a mere request. The days of superficial music and craziness being mislabeled as creativity are numbered. I could go on and on about the things that you have done/not done, but until I decide to write again...I've pulled out the chair...now please...
This is an article I read on Yahoo. Since we are all in college trying to educate ourselves to get a job and go out into this struggling economy, maybe we should know how it is out there.
"If you still have a job, maybe Friday's numbers from the Labor Department will give you a chance to exhale.
Since the recession began in December 2007, the employment market, for the most part, has been one negative headline after another. Now, we've learned that the U.S. lost only 11,000 jobs in November, that the unemployment rate surprisingly ticked down from 10.2% the previous month to only 10%, and that for the prior two months the total of jobs lost actually wasn't as bad as initially thought.
The last time the data were so bright, if they can be called that, was in December 2007, when the economy added 120,000 jobs. Yet despite pockets of optimism on Wall Street following the latest reading, the truth is that for many workers in America, these are dark days.
As of now, more than 15 million people around the country remain out of luck. Beyond the 10% headline number in joblessness, the situation is actually worse. Factoring in people who have stopped looking for work and those in part-time positions who want a full-time job, the "underemployment" rate is 17.2%. In fairness, that was down from 17.5% in October, but it remains a daunting swath of the U.S. workforce struggling to make ends meet.
Consider that the jobless rate in the El Centro, Calif., metro area is at 30%, the worst in the nation. Shockingly, it was even uglier just a couple of months ago. Though that area is used to higher-than-average joblessness, the problem has been exacerbated by the steep falloff in the region's real estate markets.
An improvement? Yes, but a mild one that still means close to one-third of eligible workers in the area continues to wait for better days. CNNMoney.com quoted one local business owner, Jim Duggins, as saying "our economy is the worst I have ever seen it and it doesn't seem to be recovering." Duggins, who owns a construction company, has already eliminated more than 80% of his workers and has 22 left. More cuts, he indicated, could be coming.
In a much-better known American town, Detroit, the jobless rate was above 17% in September as the auto industry retrenched sharply. That's nearly double the rate of the year earlier.
How bad are things in the Motor City? Foreclosures have been rampant. You could buy a home for $6,900.
The New York Times notes that the number of workers around the country dealing with what is termed long-term unemployment, that is, the inability to find work for at least 27 weeks, has been hovering at an all-time high, tallying 5.6 million people in October. One such individual is Kathy Henry, a 39-year-old Chicago resident who lost her administrative assistant position two years ago. In the time since, she has sent applications to no fewer than 500 jobs.
"It’s a constant cycle," she told the Times. "I’ve applied everywhere, from big corporations to minute corporations, and I don't even get an e-mail back. I'm worried people see me as old and out of touch and decrepit."
There's no doubt the pain has been widespread, and it's even been evidenced in one of the most sacred traditions of childhood -- the visit from the Tooth Fairy. In March, granted that was before the stock market started its rally, WebMD said that children could expect to receive an average of $1.88 for each tooth they left under their pillow, down from $2.09 in 2008. When parents are forced to cut the payouts to their kids by two dimes and a penny, that's saying something.
President Obama and other leaders in Washington say they want to brighten the landscape that's been bleak for too long. Unfortunately, this is another problem they have to solve at the same time they're dealing with the wars in Iraq and Afghanistan, the health care debate and the deficits. Perhaps on at least one level government can be part of the solution -- the Census Bureau appears poised to hire in the neighborhood of 1 million temporary workers to conduct its resident surveys in 2010.
The views on the future, naturally, are varied.
"I wouldn't say that we're totally out of the woods yet because the number of unemployed is still high," Labor Secretary Hilda Solis told Reuters Television. "It's very, very high and it's unacceptable, and we need to continue our efforts to focus in on job creation."
John Mauldin of Millennium Wave Investments is optimistic about the longer term, but for now he's planning for a "double-dip" recession. "It's going to be a slow-growth, high-unemployment environment, I think, for quite some time. It's not going to be fun," he said in an interview with Henry Blodget.
Meanwhile, First Trust's Brian Wesbury is in the upbeat camp, arguing that for Main Street, the recovery is "already on its way."
He told Tech Ticker: "It's like the flu. You know, on the third or fourth day of the flu, you are getting better. Even though you don't feel like it." " (yahoo.com)
Light lies within the Dark crevices behind my eyes To embrace my darkness Is to swallow my light My mystery illuminates my being And makes my presence Real Defined I am...
It is summer but yet the world's cold If you are a pregnant 15-year old She was sweet, quiet as a mouse But when her parents found out, she was kicked out the house Now her boyfriend's upset, furious and mad Because he found out he's gonna be a dad Now he's walking around the world with a frown Then he says the baby isn't his, and then he skips town So she turns to the church seeking what to do But the pastor says "we don't help sinners like you" She has so many questions and not enough answers Bad news keeps coming, her grandma died because of cancer Feeling abandon and no one to show her love She turns to a life filled with drugs Cocaine, PCP, Heroine… yeah she developed a habit I think it is an understatement to call her an addict She loved getting high, it would put her in a daze She started sharing needles, so now she has AIDS This girl would get high to laugh away her pain it would seem But I don't find the humor at dying at 15 The doctors did their best, they did all they could do But there was no hope, the baby died too Now this isn't a story about Mary Ann or Suzie Q This is about a Negro girl that looks just like you This poem isn't made to make you mad but to make you think This is poetic juice for your mind to drink If you see this girl drowning, help her before she sinks...
When I look outside the window, by happenstance I notice it 's raining almost as if the world around me notices the gray skies that compromise the here and there we have between us, floating away with the promising day when your eyes open to a void and my heart soars to yours... only to be pushed away by the fickle winds that change the course of our emotional walls once again it seems that you've lost yourself to essence of who I am; however, I still see the slits of sunshine moving through these clouds that stay, reminding myself with the gentlest whispers of your voice hidden within the wind that I am yours, and equivocally the same holds true in the heart you wish didn't beat a name, didn't see a face, and time and time again I wait for the world to say hey, “you're ok,” but those are dreams for another day... sometimes the rain smears against the window and yet, I still breathe the moments when you could want to exist beside me, rather than against me... but I'll stand beside you, because sometimes love comes up inside you, get behind you, and you know the rest of the song you helped write in my heart, heard or learned from another beat outside; I'm patiently waiting for the day you “say ok.”
In between the crevices of my- Disillusion, is the stored Surplus of my indecision That contributes To this seemingly impenetrable Lost state- that I wander in. This cold fog that forms an Unyielding maze keeps me Trapped INside and tricks, My body into believing I am- Floating in a warmth of life When in all actuality I am not Living but Existing, my Decision (and choices) Have been robbed of Merit My creations-raped Of superb grandeur, My eyes- stripped Of their natural shine, And my innocence- hides Behind strong cobwebs Fabricated from its blatant annual Neglect. My body shifts Into the earths realm And remains visible But its substance Hollows Symbolizing that it projects-nothing And Stands for a cause as lost as the soul that wanders in the chilled fog of oblivion.
In English for our In Class Writing we were given a poem to read entitled Barbie Doll by Margie Piercy. This poem really bothered me and once i read it I coundlnt help but be bombarded and angered, disgusted, then empathetic, reminiscent, and then contemplative, and bewildered at how a doll, a plastic doll can have so much power over a society, a nation, the world. We had a big discussion on this in class which took up the whole class period and i just want to see what other people had to say. I feel it is a major issue in society.
This girlchild was born as usual and presented dolls that did pee-pee and miniature GE stoves and irons and wee lipsticks the color of cherry candy. Then in the magic of puberty, a classmate said: You have a great big nose and fat legs.
She was healthy, tested intelligent, possessed strong arms and back, abundant sexual drive and manual dexterity. She went to and fro apologizing. Everyone saw a fat nose on thick legs.
She was advised to play coy, exhorted to come on hearty, exercise, diet, smile and wheedle. Her good nature wore out like a fan belt. So she cut off her nose and her legs and offered them up.
In the casket displayed on satin she lay with the undertaker's cosmetics painted on, a turned-up putty nose, dressed in a pink and white nightie. Doesn't she look pretty? everyone said. Consummation at last. To every woman a happy ending.
Spirit flowing from the figer tips transferring pain, joy, sorrow, all emotions of the inner being into the voice: the soul’s declaration to the world. Voice; demands your acquaintance, Is made Known through its lyrical, rhythmic statement, “Here Me Now!”. As some friends and I sat in the Union listening to two pianoists imprint their personalities in the keys, stain the shared piano with their story, I closed my eyes and drifted away from my body, from my seat, from the first floor of the WPU,…from Pitt. I traveled into the music and began to listen isnide the notes. I pried through the song and became one with its meaning. The melodic repititions further engrained it into my memory, connecting me with the song, the keys, the players. This is the power of music. Amidst all the choas, on offspring of the G20 summitt, which circumscribed our campus: the invasion/intrusion/overpopulation of the police, the protests, the riots, arrests that fueled a hollow bomb, music still managed to serve as an outlet. My friends and I were able to escape, for a little while, into a realm of peace. Hidden beneath, in between, the rising of pitch, and the increasing volume is the tone. The softer the volume the closer on comes to envisioning the song in a dream, listening to the whisper of the keys. The whisper… The whispering of the keys… Adds to the loudness of Music’s history. Music brings us all together. It has done so in the past, is still doing so in the present, and will continue in the futur. A perfect demonstration of the full extent of Music’s unifying powers was made paramount when the whole world (black, white, red, yellow, brown) mourned the death and celebrated the life of Michael Jackson. His music touched people of all ethnicities, cultures, religions, and beliefs. To illustrate this further, I was taught the Thriller dance by my white, republican friend from Philadelphia. Through music, the complexions are disregarded, all is forgotten and we just emerse ourselves in the song. the pianoists got up to leave, the music stopped, and me and my friends drifted back into reality. I could stll hear the song resonating in me ears, the story, the spirit. I asked on of the pianoists, Reggie Wilkins, what music meant to him, he responded “Music is my life. An expression of who I am. One of the most powerful things on earth. It’s a universal language, an extension of my personality”. He couldn’t have been more correct as another Pitt pianoists put it, “[music] is an oppurtunity to escape through melodies and rhythms”. That is the power, the beauty, of music.
On Thursday November 19, 2009, the College Democrats will be given three bags of paper votes for the Mr. and Miss Blackline competition: two bags of female votes and one bag of male votes. A photo will be taken for verification and the president of College Democrats, Ian Lauer will sign Blackline’s copy of this statement.
The votes will be counted as such: One paper vote with an email address (or the words “Blackline”) written on the back is worth one vote for a respected contestant. Votes that do not have email addresses (or “Blackline”) written on the back are only worth ½ vote for a respected candidate.
Once the paper votes have been counted, each contestant’s total will be multiplied by .75 (the paper vote is worth 75% of the total vote). The College Democrats will return the results to the Editor of Blackline once they have finished counting the votes.
Ian Lauer of the College Democrats returned the vote count to Blackline today November 20, 2009, at 2:20 pm. On a sheet of paper the College Democrats submitted the following calculations for the paper vote. The online votes are below as well.
PAPER VOTES:
Ian Johnson: 12 2/3 Derrick Kirton: 1.75 Aerion Abney: 10 1/8 Keith Green: 6 3/4 David Gordon: 3 3/4 Vince Cunningham: 4 1/8 Gabriel Ekemezie: 24 Amelius: 1
Congratulations to ALL of our MODELS who will ALL APPEAR in our new holiday issue set to drop the week of November 30th, 2009!!! And congratulations to Gabe Ekemezie and Tanisha Hill who will appear on two separate covers of the issue!
Hello constituents, Thank you all for supporting Blackline's search for covermodels. We apologize for not posting these regulations sooner, but in lieu of excessive and unfair adherence to the rules, these are the regualtions that will be put in place immediately. These will be the same regulations that will hold for future competitions.
How the Votes will be counted:
1.) The online (blog) vote will account for 25% of the total vote. 2.) The paper vote vote will account for 75% of the total vote. 3.) The male votes that were counted at the beginning of the competition (prior to the restart/new addition) will be added to the final online vote. 4.) Voting boxes will be available at the BAS 80s party. (Friday, Nov, 13, 2009) Voters must put their email addresses on the back of the ballot for it to be counted. 5.) Voting boxes/rules will be present in the BAS office. 6.) The paper ballots will be counted by an outside organization/individual. No member of the Blackline committee/no member of the Black Action Society will be allowed/given access to the vote counting. 7.) The online polls for Miss Blackline will end Saturday and the online polls for Mr. Blackline will end Sunday. 8.) The Blackline staff will have the voting boxes from 11am-6pm at a table in the William Pitt Union's food court on Tuesday, November 17, 2009. 9.) The paper voting will end Wednesday at 5:30 pm. 10.) Good luck to all of our contestants.
Please be advised that online voting is not the only way to vote. There are boxes in the BAS office (WPU 613) where you may vote for one contestant once a day until voting ends. Also, there will be voting in WPU next Tuesday (11/17) from 11 AM- 6 PM.
Question 2: What do you find attractive about them?
Person 2 – They are different and unknown.
Person 3 – I like tan girls.
Person 5 – I am curious.
Question 3: What qualities of a black woman do you look for (Lighter, or darker, big booty etc.)?
Person 1 – Lighter skinned, big booty, longer hair with no weave.
Person 2 – I like lighter skinned black women, with a big booty, and medium length hair, I would date a woman with a weave but do not prefer it.Thin not thick.
Person 3 – I like darker women, with shorter hair and big booty, no weave.I’d like her to have a thin waist.
Person 4 – Lighter skinned, and her hair to the shoulder so it won’t get in my face.I don’t like her hair I like her hips!
Person 5 – I like lighter skinned women, with longer hair.Weave is okay, as long as it looks natural.
Person 6 – I don’t really see color.I’ve been attracted to pretty much every race at some point.She has to have a cute face but more mature looking, she can’t look really young.I guess a little thicker, and I prefer long hair.Weave is acceptable.
Question 4: Why Lighter skinned?
Person 1 – A preference
Person 2 – A preference
Person 4 – I feel more of the same skin tone.
Person 5 - A preference
Question 5: Is Boobs or Booty more attractive to you?
Person 1 - Booty
Person 5 – Boobs.
Person 6 -I’m a butt man.
Question 5: What African American female celebrity would you most say represents your type?
Person 1 – Rihanna and Halle Berry
Person 2, 4, 5 – Beyoncé
Person 3 – Serena Williams
Person 6 - Beyoncé, or Rihanna
Question 6: What African American female celebrity would you most say represents your type?
Person 1 – Rihanna and Halle Berry
Person 2, 5 – Beyoncé
Person 3 – Serena Williams
Person 4 - Beyoncé.I do like this one girl on campus, but she is Indian though.Close enough.
Person 6 - Beyoncé, or Rihanna
Question 8: Would you date a black girl or just try one, and would you bring her home to mama?
Person 1, 4, 6 – I would date her, yes.
Person 2 – I would not date her, but I would hook up with her.
Person 3 – I would date her, yes my brothers date girls who aren’t white.
Person 5 – I would date her because it doesn’t matter to me, yes.
Question 9: Would your friends care if you dated a black girl; do they normally date black women?
Person 1 – Most of my friends like black women.I feel like everyone is fairly equal today.
Person 4 - Most of them wouldn’t care.And No they do not.
Person 5 – There aren’t many black people in my town, but I think they wouldn’t mind.
Person 6 - Yes and, yes.
Among Black Men:
Question 1: Do you like black women?
Person 1, 3, 4, 5, 6 - Yes
Person 2 -Yes, every kind!
Question 2: What do you look for in regards to a black woman’s appearance?
Person 1 - Basically, gotta be attracted to her in some sort of way.I usually ain't attracted to extremely dark girls like way darker than much.If we are talking black, hair does not matter.
Person 2 – Can’t be too tall or too short; must have a nice smile, nice eyes, no nappy hair, not messy - have all the essentials.I like all shades of black women.Big booty all the way and dark colored eyes.
Person 3 – Dark skin and big butt; curvaceous body, long hair and no weave.
Person 4 – The blacker the berry the sweeter the juice.Big booty more hips than mean, clean, and presentable (no sweats and a hoodie).
Person 5 – I prefer lighter skin, and good hair; nice teeth, big booty, and shorter hair.
Person 6 – Dark, not into light skinned chicks.I like boobs more than booty.And I like short hair as long as its styled.
Question 3: What celebrity best illustrates your ideal black woman?
Person 2 - Halle Berry
Person 3 – Kelly Rowland
Person 4 – Gabrielle Union
Person 5 – Gabrielle Union
Person 6 - Tyra Banks is the ultimate woman, and Stacy Dash.
Next, I attempted to see if Black women had any reservations about Black men.
Question 1: As a black woman, do you feel that lighter, long haired women have it easier?
1, 2,3,7,8 – Yes!
4 – Yes, because they like mixed girls and they are close to it.Lighter girls are closer to white and longer hair to pull on.
5 – No, everybody have to be at the right place at the right time
6 -Yes I do, because of the media, and all we see is white women and lack girls got to be as close to white, long hair, light eyes.
Question 2: What do you look for in a black man?
1 - Fresh cut, curly hair…depends on the person
4 - Education, ambition, sense of humor, athletes (pro or not) tall/short: it doesn’t matter as long as you are above eye level.
5 – Swag
6 – Nice smile, a guy who is intelligent, no drug dealers, only legit reason to go to jail, respectful.
7 – Intelligent
8 – Intelligence besides “Shawty I like the way you blah, blah,”
Question 3: Do you prefer lighter or darker skinned men?
1, 2, 3,4,6,7 – No preference
5 – Dark
8 – In between
Question 4: Does your man need to have a six pack?
1 - No extra fat (teddy bear or gut)
2 – Four or six pack, period.
3 – Doesn’t matter
4 – No preference
5 – Cut, can’t be chunky
6 – No preference
7 – Cut
8 - Cut
Question 5: What male celebrity best illustrates your ideal black man?
1 – Will Smith
2 – Boris Kodjoe
3 – Idris Elba
4 – Dwayne Johnson
5 – Taye Diggs
7 – Rudy Gay
8 – Columbus Short
Question 6: Do you believe it is hard to find a good black man?
All said “Hell Yes” because:
·They cheat
·Want a shortie or a “bust it baby,” no wifey
·Lie
·Get too comfortable
·Cocky
·Don’t do romantic things
·Like white chicks, Latinas, and now Asians
·Don’t have their lives together
·Players
·In jail
·gay
In general, black women were pretty lenient when it came to the color, and shape of black men.In addition, all seemed frustrated with the lack of black men, as well as the “quality.” They were also more than willing to answer these questions.Looking at the answers of the men, I interviewed for who is their definition of a desired woman, not only were most light skinned but, most of them had lighter eyes.I began to remember all of the women who I grew up with that would purchase color contacts just to be noticed.All the times adults would look at babies and base their answer on why a baby was cute by if they had light eyes were light skinned, or had curly hair, which is called “good hair,” by many people.But why?Why do we put so much emphasis on these features?Is it because they are just a preference or because of a historical emphasis on lighter skin?You can be the judge.
Today's desired Black Women include: Tyra Banks, Keri Hilson, Beyonce, Gabrielle Union, Sanaa Lathan, Rihanna, Jennifer Hudason, Buffie the Body and Pussycat Doll Nicole Scherziger
