I recently was talking to a guy who told me that him and his ex Tiara* we're "still friends." I asked him how often they talked and he said, "every now and then." I asked if he still had feelings for her. He said, "I'll always have love for her, but I don't feel the same way I used to about her." And with that, I was done asking about his past.
He and I quickly became part of one another's lives--spending weekends together, spending nights in each other's rooms, going out to dinners, etc. I was happy, he was happy.
One day while I was in his room, I noticed a pink set of earrings. "Whose are those?" I asked.
"Oh, those are Tiara's*. I have to give them back to her."
But those earrings weren't there the week before. They weren't there two days ago. Had he cleaned his room and found them under his bed? Had he set them aside to give them back to her as a last gesture of the end of their relationship? I didn't press the issue any further, his answer was enough.
I continued to spend time with him but I kept noticing little things. He was always texting on his phone, and anytime I spent the night at his place he would step outside of his room to make a phone call. He would sometimes cancel his plans with me hours before saying, "Oh, Im sorry something came up but I'll make it up to you later."
It took me months to realize that his ex was still in the picture. Although he constantly claimed that he wasn't in love with her anymore, his actions showed differently. They still hung out on the weekends, and anytime he wasn't hanging with me, he was hanging with her.
One day I finally found the guts to break it off with him. It hurt, but I knew it was for the better. She still had a piece of his heart and I was trying to be with someone who wasn't willing to be with me just yet. As someone who was hurt by the "me and my ex are just friends" bull, I'm writing this to let you know that if someone says that line to you, RUN! There's no way that someone can remain friends with his/her ex. IT DOES NOT WORK.
Love & Lines,
Shelbbzzz
*name has been changed
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